The book's name was: "500 Lovemaking Tips and Secrets!"
It promised so much: If you want a super sex life then… In five minutes (WOW!) you can have any of these proven secrets working for you even if you're shy or embarrassed ..........and on and on, such as:
* The biggest lovemaking mistakes - - * How to invigorate each other to make love - - * Ways to help cure premature ejaculation - - * Dozen of oral sex tips - - * Fun sex games - - * The best positions to make love - - * Unique places to make love - - * Secrets to give each other more pleasure - - * How to make sex more intimate and meaningful - - * Ways to incorporate food into lovemaking - -
So being intrigued by its promises (and I have NO DOUBT the book helps with lovemaking!), I wanted to play and share fun stuff and this ultimately turned into a His Version Article from a guy friend and a Her Version Article (me) about Lovemaking Suggestions and Fun.
Her Version of Filling In The Blanks Of Lovemaking Suggestions & Fun
* The biggest lovemaking mistakes - Its never good to call the person by the wrong name.
* How to invigorate each other to make love - To me women's biggest invigorator would be if their man set aside special time. This is not the kinna' time like after she's worked all day, fed everyone, bathed the kids and climbed into bed exhausted. Ways to set aside that time might be hiring a babysitter that takes the kids somewhere else for the afternoon, performing extra chores so she has energy, you could go all out and set up his and hers massages at your home. Invest in your lovemaking, it pays good dividends.
* Ways to help cure premature ejaculation - Duhh-h-h-h, spend more time on her!
* Dozen of oral sex tips - Easy one, ask her what she likes, encourage her in loving and caring ways to discuss
her and what pleases her. Similarly, share with her what you enjoy. Click here to go to two of my La Belle Femme articles:
Oral Sex With Confidenceand
Temple Tapping And Other Relaxation Tips For Good Sex.
* Fun sex games - Here's one that's as easy as pie!!!!!! Call him and tell him you're having chocolate pie dessert tonite. Leave a love note (when the kids aren't home of course) that tells him, to
relax but hurry upstairs, that the chocolate pie awaits. Spread rose petals on the steps, leading to the bedroom. Post another love note on the (closed) bedroom door - this note could say something like,
"Come In For A Delicious Time!" When he enters, he finds candles lit, soft music playing and you in your satin peignoir sitting next to large bakery box. The rules can vary: no utensils in the room, help him to undress before you 'dress' his penis (in chocolate pie .......). The games can end however you desire.
* The best positions to make love - Ask her, ask him. Make this part of lovemaking, your partner talks comfortably and teasingly about these things, and that he or she listens to you. Ask your partner about unusual positions he might have thought about, wondered about (watch him eyes, watch his face, allow him some laughter of love).
* Unique places to make love - Pfffffttttt, again. Easy. Kitchens! Elevators! Bathrooms of restaurants! (I'm not admitting to any of these, except perhaps well maybe one.)
* Secrets to give each other more pleasure - Pay attention. Be a kind and loving person to your partner in everyday ways. Leave rose petals even when you aren't looking for lovemaking, with a note that you think your partner is incredibly special.
* How to make sex more intimate and meaningful - Tell your partner that they are beautiful to you. Complement the many features that endear that person to you. Be specific with examples of those special characteristics. When your partner feels special and feels beautiful, they want to open up about lovemaking. Your partner wants to breathe you in, a feeling of tenderness and care is identified with you.
* Ways to incorporate food into lovemaking - Chocolate pie, you already got here. Whipped cream is an easy one. Ice cubes and any cold cold drink in the mouth and then applied to your mate is highly erotic. Another variety is grapes, or strawberries, fruit and perhaps a glass of wine that is combined with reading of a love poem or a short story you have written about each other.
OK I'll bite. I'm a guy, so I'll answer these questions from a guys standpoint.
His Version of Filling In The Blanks Of Lovemaking Suggestions & Fun* The biggest lovemaking mistakes - Mistakes, there are are no mistakes, it's all learning. There is good love making and there is sometimes not so good love making. You always learn something and if your smart and perceptive you will apply your lessons toward the future to the benefit of you and your partner. If I had to admit to any mistake in making love it would have to be allowing yourself to not make love for an extended period of time. That my friends is unforgivable.
* How to invigorate each other to make love - That's an easy one, pay attention to your women. If after years of being together you cannot tell when your partner is ready or desirous of slow loving or a quickie then you need to step back and reevaluate. You can reinvigorate your lovemaking through many different ways. It's up to you to observe what it is that is required, if you can read minds then you'll have it aced, if not ask her what makes her feel good. If you can't do that then drop back 30 and punt.
* Ways to help cure premature ejaculation - Another easy one. This is for you guys that think boner pills are the best thing since sliced cheese. The trick is don't worry about it and relax. When I say relax, that's exactly what I mean. If your just wanting to get your nut off, then don't waste a good woman's time and take it to your hand. If you try to force the issue you always have the same problems. If you think you have a medical condition then go seek help from a professional. Most problems people have with premature ejaculation are from anxiety or there inability to join there partner at an emotional level. So if you guys think that boner pills are the answer for you then be my guest. If you think that your women will reject you because you don't present a rock hard cock each and every time you make love then you are sadly mistaken and totally underestimate the love your women has for you. An erection can come and go many times while making love, if you totally focus on the state of your erection instead of the act of making love as a whole and the pleasure that it provides you both, then you are destined to fail.
* Dozen of oral sex tips - Try holding you lovers lower lip in your teeth while sucking on it very gently, dragging your teeth ever so slightly on the nape of your partners neck, sucking on a nipple and keeping it interesting, a gentle bite just above the ankle, sharing a cold grape from mouth to mouth, drizzling honey on a favorite body part then licking it off, having your partner eat her yogurt off of your cock, licking or nibbling the buttock where it meets the back side of the thigh, tantalizing the clitoris with your tongue, encouraging your partner to join you in oral gratification in a comfortable fashion. Be careful about receiving head while your driving cuz' cuming and going do not mix.
* Fun sex games - I never really played any sex games, but I could fantasize about meeting my lover in at a strange destination and pretending it was the first time we met.
* Unique places to make love - Oh this is fun, I can name a few favorites; the kitchen counter top, bent over the couch, in the shower on the banco, on a bale of hay in the horse trailer, in an elevator, anywhere outside on a sunny day (love those quickies). Haven't tried it in an airplane yet, but every time I go into an airplane lav, I look at it and wonder how anyone could get it on in there without making a helluv' a racket.
* The best positions to make love - I sometimes like it when my sweetie sits on top of me faced away from me and rides me as though I'm not even there. I like spooning and staying inside her all nite, but my all time favorite is missionary very slowly.
* Secrets to give each other more pleasure - Hah, you think I'm gonna give up my trades secrets that easily. Go fish. The trick is to give your partner as much pleasure as you possibly can with as little effort as possible. If I could get my baby to cum by just looking at her I would, and what fun it would be.
* How to make sex more intimate and meaningful - Stay with the program on an emotional level even during a quickie, if she wants to just use you, let it happen, just enjoy and know that you are loved. You don't have to be in control all the time, control is overrated.
* Ways to incorporate food into lovemaking - Smear in on and lick it off, it's that easy. As far as penetration with food, I suppose it's cool but there are certain hygienic rules that need to be adhered to so proceed with caution.
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