Enjoyment of good sex isn't just for fun. History reveals that medicine men throughout history have recommended good sex as one of the best ways to discharge stress - as well as, to have happiness in your life and good health. I've learned to combine what is a stress relaxation technique with sex, to achieve good sex, and I will share it with you.
I learned about temple tapping from my girlfriend Beth. She'd learned in chiropractic school, temple tapping can help you give better oral sex by reducing the gag reflex.
It both confused and fascinated me, I recall blurting 'NO WAY' with laughing in between, over and over again.In a general sense, temple or face tapping awakens and relaxes the trigeminal nerve and may help:
* alleviate headache
* reduce the pain of TMJ
* support speech production, relieve facial tics and paralysis, etc.
* and, according to my friend Beth, reduce the gag reflex
Tapping of the temples becomes a relaxation technique, benefiting the cranial nerves, stress reduction, overall well being and, oral sex (or as Bethie says, deep throating). Specifically face tapping awakens and relaxes the trigeminal nerve by means of organized stimulation of the nerves, that is, by stimulating them in a way that follows their own organizational pathways. The brain will track the stimulation that is done during the face tapping and try to anticipate where the next tap is going to be. The fact that the tapping follows the organization of the nerves facilitates this anticipation (see the Handle Institute's web page, here.)
I started using relaxation as a sexual tool after being 'empowered' by Beth. I was the typical white-girl-prude without a clue. When Bethie told how the professor had announced that he would be teaching them about temple tapping and its use in sex of controlling the gag reflex, there was stifled laughter - that'd be me; I'd be nervous.
If we use dancing as an example, it is instantly seen how important relaxation is to the task. Dancing absolutely requires rhythm, looseness, a pliable body. No one wants a stiff, rigid or nervous dance partner. To enjoy good dancing, the ability to relax and yet still consciously dance is invaluable. Similarly, relaxation techniques during sex help to create good sex.
To start to relax I put mind on, or focus my mind on another place, it can be as simple as counting backwards, mentally saying the alphabet, repeating phrases, etc. I will sometimes use clock-face visualization, imagining the face of a clock, and follow the pattern or the organization of its numbers. Eyes closed, visualizing and finding the 3, following down to the 6, up to the left for 9, and up and over to the 12, this is then your repetition or meditation.
Sex is at its best when it is not only a whole-body experience, but a whole-person experience; body and mind are both involved. We naturally all are consumed with daily living - emotional vulnerabilities are just barely below the surface at all times, resulting in stress and causing conscious and unconscious tension. When we are no longer inhibited, endorphins are released and we are empowered sexually, whole-body and whole-person.
When my mind can help my body improve the sex for my partner and me, that is d*mn hot. Again, be enthusiastic, attitude is nine-tenths of the law. Have fun now. Have a lot of fun, in fact.
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